So you’ve booked your place on a Speed Dating event and now you’re wondering what to wear, what to talk about and what actually happens when you’ll get there. Fear not, hopefully this article will answer the questions you’ve got. If not, check out our FAQs or ask us a question.
What to wear
The question we probably get asked most is ‘what should I wear to a Speed Dating event?’. A quick and easy answer is usually the standard ‘smart casual’ but really you should wear whatever you feel comfortable in. Keep in mind that you are still trying to attract someone and will hopefully start a relationship, so we’d probably recommend staying away from muddy work jeans, even if they are super comfy!
What happens when you get to the event
When you arrive at the venue you’ll be greeted by the host of the event, who will have your name down on the guest list already. They’ll sign you in and give you a badge which will have your name and a number on. You’ll also get given a date card and told how to fill it in. Once you’re signed in you’ll have until the event starts to get yourself comfortable and grab a drink at the bar. Depending on when you arrive there may be other guests there already. Obviously you’re free to talk to anyone that’s there already, in fact we recommend doing this if you have the chance to – events like this are all about first impressions and by approaching people straight away you’ll appear confident.
After all the guests have arrived the host will announce that the event is ready to get started. At this point everyone should go to the table with the same number that’s on their badge (e.g. if your badge has number 6 on it you should go to table 6). You’ll then get your first date underway with the other person at that table. You’ll have five minutes to chat and then the host will a bell, indicating that the date is over and it’s time to move onto the next table. Usually the format is that ladies stay at their tables for the duration and the gents move around. As all the tables are numbered, each time you’ll be moving to the next consecutively numbered table (e.g. if you start at table 6 you’ll move to table 7 next, and so on).
What to talk about
Some people come with a pre-prepared list of questions they’re planning on asking their dates. Occasionally they’re wacky questions like ‘if you were a cereal what cereal would you be?’, which we guess works for some people. The questions you want to ask really depends on what you’re looking for in a relationship. If religion is important to you ask about their religion. If you can’t stand pets, ask about pets.
When we speak to people that have thought of questions before turning up they usually say that they didn’t get a chance to ask most of them because of the natural flow of conversation that starts from the first question. That’s the thing, you only have to ask one question to get the conversation started and then you’ll find yourself asking questions you think about in the moment. And if you can’t think of a single thing to ask get started, remember that you’re all at the same Speed Dating event in the first place, so you’ve got that in common straight away. ‘What made you decide to come Speed Dating tonight?’ could be an opener and you’ll find that half the time has gone already.
What if I start to bottle it close to the event date
It’s perfectly normal to feel a certain amount of nerves before an event. Different people deal with these nerves in different ways. For some, it’s a good thing and they try and use it to their advantage. It’ll make everything feel a little more worth it. For others, the nerves can turn into fear and they’ll want to hide away from the fear. It takes courage to some along to an event like these, especially on your own. But you’ll be amazed at what just turning up can do for your confidence on the night.
More often than we’d like there are people booked on an event that won’t turn up due to nerves. It’s a real shame. Obviously from our point of view, it means our attendee numbers will be messed up, which could result in gender ratios being uneven. And our main goal is always to provide an enjoyable experience to everyone attending.
If you really feel like you want to bottle it please let us know – there’s always a chance we could persuade you otherwise. You’ll be glad once you get to the event, trust us. And most importantly if you have decided you’re definitely not going to attend an event you’re booked on to please let us know. We’ll usually offer you chance to move your booking to a different event if we know in advance. We’re less likely to if the event has been affected by you not turning up. Like we said, it’s totally understandable that nerves have got the better of you and we don’t judge anyone for backing out – we’d just appreciate it if you’d drop us an email or a text message 🙂