What Is Speed Dating?
The only experience you might have of Speed Dating is seeing it once in a Will Smith comedy. And let’s be honest, it didn’t make us want to rush along to the next one available! Don’t get me wrong, Hitch was a great film but it didn’t make Speed Dating look like the most relaxing way to meet people in your spare time. Even if you haven’t come across it in a movie or tv show most people have a basic idea of what Speed Dating is. It’s an event organised by passionate people like us to help take some of the burdens away from seeking out single, fun and interesting people to get to know.
A typical event will have a decent number of men and women – usually between 20 and 30 – with a 50/50 gender split (unless of course it’s an LGBTQ event) that are single and looking to date. Typically the ladies will be seated and the men will move from table to table, where they’ll have a five minute date with each of the ladies. With the help of a score card that everyone has throughout the evening they’ll let the organisers know which people they’d like to see again. Then once the actual Speed Dating is over everyone is free to do as they please – stay and continue chatting or get back home for an early night. The next morning you’ll get an email with the details of any people you matched with on the night.
So that’s it in a nutshell, basically it’s like a really long-winded, in person version of Tinder. Although this way you get a real feeling when you see someone as opposed to just seeing a picture that’s 5 years old!
Why Five Minute Dates?
Now five minutes might sound like a long time to spend on each date, but remember you still have to make introductions on every one and still have time to talk about yourselves and ask questions. Most of our guests are surprised by how fast the time goes! It’s certainly long enough to decide if there’s a spark with that person but still short enough if you are with someone you’re not getting on particularly well with. Believe us it really does fly by. If you find that it’s gone too fast with a few people you can always stick around after the event and carry on chatting to them.
The Score Card
When you arrive at a Speed Dating event you’ll be handed a clipboard and a pen along with your badge (which will have your name and a number on). Inside the clipboard is a score card and a notes page. As soon as you get your score card you should fill in the personal details at the top, which includes your name, email address and mobile number. We will only share the information that you indicate you want shared but we need this information regardless so we can get the results to you. The idea is that every time you see a new person you write their name and badge number on the score card (we recommend this being the first thing you do) and once the five minutes is up you mark whether you’d like to see that person again. We then collect these up at the end and work out if you’ve been matched with anyone (i.e. you’ve ticked them and they’ve ticked you). The notes section of the clipboard is for you to take away with you and is just there incase you’d want to remind yourself of the people you saw, as sometimes there can be quite a few.
Getting The Results
Finding out if you received any matches at an event is as easy as checking your email inbox the next morning. We recently changed the way we deliver the results. After we collect everyone’s score card we’ll usually compile the results right away (assuming there aren’t any complications) and send out emails the following morning. This is why it’s really important to make sure that you right your email address correctly on your date card. If you have been matched with anyone the email will contain details of your match/matches. The details we send will depend on what each person has chosen to share via a checkbox on the date card. To avoid us sharing your details with someone you don’t wish to have them it’s important that you review your date card before handed them back at the end – we can’t be held responsible if you ticked someone you didn’t intend to – please check our terms and conditions for more on this.
Does Speed Dating Actually Work?
Absolutely! But this doesn’t mean that attending an event will guarantee you success of finding a relationship. What it will do is provide an opportunity where you’ll meet a large group of single people of a similar age that are interested in dating. We hope that there’ll be someone there that you hit it off with and will see in the future but we know from experience that it’s not always the case. Speaking with people after our events that haven’t quite hit it off with anyone, their response is always the same – it’s an enjoyable night out and they’ve met some lovely people regardless of if they’ll see them again. Aside from romantic relationships, a lot of people have made some real friends at the events, which we’re thrilled with. We get quite a few emails and messages from couples telling us they met at one our Speed Dating events and have gone on to get married and sometimes have had children together.
At the end of the day it’s worth a go, even if it’s just something different to try. We all know how unsuccessful most of our experiences of online dating sites can be. We stand by our tagline – Five Minutes Could Change Everything!